Talking to your ex about dating
Key facts
| Agree | Tell each other before new partners meet the children |
|---|---|
| In front of the kids | Stay positive, or at least neutral |
| Their new partner | Keep the children's needs first |
| Support | Relate family counselling, 0300 100 1234 |
Co-parenting and dating can feel tricky. A few ground rules can make things smoother for everyone. These ideas focus on what's best for the children.
Agree a simple rule
One Parent Families Scotland suggests agreeing with your ex that you'll tell each other before introducing new partners to the children. Stay positive or neutral in front of the children. Don't use the children to find out about your ex's life.
Source: One Parent Families Scotland: Introducing a new partner, checked 8 November 2026
When your ex has a new partner
The Welsh Government's Parenting Together guide says you may have strong feelings about your ex's new relationship. In all cases, focus on what's best for your child. Where it's safe, support your child's relationship with their other parent.
Source: Welsh Government: Parenting Together, supporting children through separation, checked 8 November 2026
Get help as a family
Relate's family counselling helps families through separation, forming a new family and reducing arguments. Counsellors make sure everyone has their say. Book online or call 0300 100 1234.
Source: Relate: Family counselling, checked 8 November 2026
Questions
Do I have to tell my ex I'm dating?
Not straight away. It helps to tell them before a new partner meets the children.
What if my ex reacts badly?
Stay calm and keep the focus on the children. Get support if you need it.
Should my new partner meet my ex?
Only when things are serious and everyone is ready. There's no rush.
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